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August 30, 2009

Buddhism and the Death Penalty

Last week Thailand executed two men who had been convicted of large-scale drug possession. These were the first executions since 2003 and they were ordered and carried out on very short notice. The two prisoners had been on death row for years, but were only told about their impending executions a few hours ahead of time. They were allowed to call their families, write wills, eat their last meals, and a monk came to chant for them. They were given flowers, incense, and candles (the traditional Buddhist offering) so that they could make merit for the final time.

I'm always saddened by this kind of killing but reading about how it was carried out in this Buddhist context made it seem even more incongruous and wrong. One of the five main prohibitions in Thai Buddhism forbids the taking of any life (animal or human) and in a fascinating article in today's Bangkok Post, the prison director gives a very candid interview in which he acknowledges the moral dilemma he faced. Here are a few excerpts:

"After reading the [execution] order, Prasert Yusuphap [the prison commander] sat in front of an image of the Lord Buddha in his office and started to pray and meditate. ''I'm a Buddhist and I don't want to order the killing of anyone,'' said Mr Prasert.

"The toughest job was asking three men to conduct the lethal injections. No one wanted to perform the job, Mr Prasert said... there were no volunteers. Three guards who normally have routine chores such as watching over prisoners or providing occupational training were given the task.

''They don't want to do this, but someone must. It's our duty and we must perform it,'' said Mr Prasert.

''They [the executioners] asked for forgiveness from the two, and after they finished the task I advised them to do merit-making,'' said Mr Prasert, who walked back to his office to again pray for forgiveness in front of the Buddha image."

That image of the unwilling executioners asking for the forgiveness of the prisoners will stick with me for while.

-Tom

August 29, 2009

Now THAT'S take-out

There are times when we really miss the little egg rolls in a waxy bag from our favorite Chinese restaurant in Urbana, or the gooey, cheesy burritos and refried beans from Fiesta Tropical. We even get hungry for Subway or Taco Bell occasionally. But I have to say, our take-out meal this past Friday night had them all waaaaaaay beat.

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Okay, I think food pictures with flash always look a little gross, but this was a late dinner (we sometimes like to wait till the kids are in bed so we can eat in peace. Don't worry, we feed them first). These are our favorite garlic squid that are sooooo good dipped in chili sauce. They are an almost weekly treat for us.

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For the first time, we ordered a to-go fried fish. AM-A-ZING! Heaped with all kinds of goodies and with an incredible sauce. Mmmmmmm.

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Shrimp cakes in a potato nest. Yeah, we ordered way too much! Tom saved most of his crab curry for the next day. :)

If you come visit us in Thailand, we'll order some for you! In the meantime, enjoy some General Tso's chicken or chips and salsa for us!
-C

August 26, 2009

Mouths of Babes

Claire: Sometimes when I'm at school and don't know what to do, I imagine you are beside me and then I think, what would Daddy tell me to do?

Tom (feeling flattered): Does that help?

Claire: A little bit.

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Tom and Eliza discussing the difference between the commandments in Christianity and the precepts of Buddhism. Tom was giving her examples about how Buddhists don't believe in killing anything alive...and giving examples like people who carry a broom to sweep bugs away so they won't step on them or live mousetraps or brushing off a mosquito instead of slapping it.
Eliza's response: Yeah, we can kill ants...but not elephants or butterflies.

Tom: In the Bible God says that we are different from animals and we're in charge of them and we take care of them....

Eliza: and squeeze milk out of their bodies?

Yeah, that too.
Hey, I don't mind live mouse (rat) traps as long as I don't have to deal with them. It's up to Tom to get rid of the sticky traps with the live rat waiting in the morning. Shiver. Shudder.

-Candice

August 25, 2009

Reflecting on three years

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Celebrating three years!

"Then come, let us go up to Bethel, where I will build an altar to God, who answered me in the day of my distress and who has been with me wherever I have gone." (words of Jacob from Gen. 35:3)

Reflections on three years:

1. We are so thankful to God for answering our prayers and for being with us wherever we have gone.
2. We have a lot to learn. Almost daily we learn a new Thai word or realize a new facet of Thai culture or learn something we never realized about Buddhism (or the unique way that Buddhism is practiced here). We know only a tiny fraction of what there is to know.
3. We love Thais and Thailand. For us, it is a wonderful second home, for the kids, simply home.
4. We still struggle and will continue to struggle. It's not easy being an "alien", a "foreigner" (farang). There are things we will never understand or appreciate.
5. We love Thai food!
6. We're proud of Claire and Eliza for "adopting" Thailand and adapting to many new situations and for trying many new things from new foods to making friends in another language.
7. Our idea of what "church" here looks like keeps changing and is much more simple than anything we've tried before. We love the interaction with brand new believers and seekers and watching their faith grow is the best part of life here.
8. This experience, our "Thai adventure" has strengthened and bonded us as a family. Every family member has had a unique experience in relating to the changes and the culture but we've also been able to support each other through it.
9. We've learned about being "smooth" in our relationships, being quiet, meek, humble, polite, friendly in the ways that are valued on Thai culture.
10. We're continuing to learn that God works in His own way and there are many paths to a relationship to Jesus and maybe people are on different places on that journey. Our view of who God is and what he can do has expanded as we watch him work.
11. Having a baby here was a great experience- we've bonded with many new people over Nong Si!
12. We are thankful for you! Your e-mails, packages, blog comments, facebook messages, your prayers, your visits, your support have been an incredible blessing to us.

Thank you for praying and we can't wait to see many of you soon! !

-Candice and Tom

August 24, 2009

3 Years Ago Today

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Three years ago today we were leaving for Thailand. Nervous, excited, and scared are a few of the words that come to mind!

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Claire was three years old then, so she's now lived half of her life in Thailand!

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We flew out of New York, so our last night was spent at the beach and eating Nathan's famous hotdogs.

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Special last moments with Grandpa.

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And Grandma.

Thanks to Tom's mom for sending most of these pictures. I guess we were to nervous to remember to take pictures!

I had to cry while looking at these pictures of the good-byes with cousins and grandparents:
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Claire and Dara

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Eliza and Allison

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Baby Laci was born just a few days before we left.

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Saying good-bye to Grandmom and Grandaddy.

I hope you don't mind us being a little teary and sentimental today. My heart is very tender and my throat is choked up when I look at these pictures and remember the good-byes and all the stress and change that was to come. God has been so good to us in seeing us through that very exciting yet stressful and sad time. Although we feel at home now and happy in our life here, we don't miss our families any less!

-Candice

August 23, 2009

One Year Ago Today

One year ago today....

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Silas Rhodes Mast made his grand entrance at Bumrungrad Hospital, Bangkok, Thailand.
And after the fastest year I can remember....

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The birthday boy is one year old.
I discovered that it is an impossible job to take birthday pictures of a one year old. He kept trying to crawl off and play in the dirt and refused to look at the camera plus kept chewing on his lips because he's teething. Most of my pictures are of his backside.

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Claire and Eliza came running to our room when they heard Silas this morning. Eliza immediately said, "I just want to see how big he is!" So we all laid around on the bed and admired him for awhile until he got too rowdy and kept trying to nosedive off the bed.

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Some of our sweet friends helped us celebrate with ice cream at Swensens. Silas was pretty impressed with his first ice cream.

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Silas and Dtukda- we were celebrating both their birthdays.

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Later in the day he opened presents (with plenty of help from the girls) and had some cake. Future soccer star here.

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"Are you sure I'm allowed to just dig right into this??? After a year of no sweets, I get ice cream AND cake in one day??"

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All worn out from eating cake and opening presents. Silas, like Eliza on her first birthday just delicately picked at the cake, unlike Claire who was a two handed face stuffer on hers!

Happy Birthday, big boy! We love you!!!!
-C

Panda P.S.

Okay, the last panda post, I promise! Coming soon: birthday boy pictures!

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I just thought this picture from the paper this morning was so cute! It's the little prince- the son of Thailand's crown prince- meeting the baby panda. Awwww. The little prince is three years old.

August 18, 2009

She has a name

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Our famous little panda has a name....Lin Ping. (it means rice field in Chinese). A two year old girl won a million baht in the naming contest (plus a trip to China and a new car!).

August 14, 2009

Cha-am Getaway

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We had a great little 2 day getaway to a closeby beach called Cha-am this week. It was a nice Thai-style beach...meaning there weren't tourists and the people on the beach were fully clothed and usually eating or taking pictures instead of swimming. We are always amazed when we go to the beach how modest Thais are- on Sunday there were hundreds of people on the beach but only about 2 swimsuits! People go fully clothed into the ocean- even wearing jeans! (As you can see from the pictures, we've learned to keep pretty covered up too- that sun is fierce!) Mostly, people were just enjoying the view and relaxing on the beach under umbrellas eating seafood. We had some amazing, Thai-style seafood ourselves....like a fried fish so meaty it was like chicken!, clams in spicy red sauce, huge BBQ prawns, shrimp cakes (my favorite beach food), and crab fried rice. Although the trip was quick and we had some "incident's" including a lost backpack (later found), a jelly fish sting (Tom and Eliza) and Silas's meltdowns over too much sand in his mouth and eyes, it was a fun trip. We also enjoyed the train ride down (once we got Silas to take his morning nap).

This week, we've gotten back into our routine of English teaching. I will start a class with a new student this Sunday and I'm looking forward to that. Tom still has regular students throughout the week and teaches at the girls kindergarten on Thursdays. The girls are doing well in school although Eliza still has mornings that she begs not to go. Please pray for her when you think about her, that God will give her peace about school. Thank you!
-Candice

August 07, 2009

More Good-byes

Sometimes we feel like we are always saying good-bye to friends! This week is was our Reach team that's been here for the last nine months- Bekah, Charity, Kim, Beth, Naomi and Janessa. This team was such a great group of girls and we just loved their positive attitudes and willingness to jump in and try lots of new things. They lived with host families, taught elementary school English, took trips all over Thailand and generally had lots of new experiences.

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The Reachers sing for a group of kids and friends at Yupin's house (our friend who has a children's ministry in her home). She had a good-bye costume party for them.

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Janessa at Yupin's party.

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The doctor and the princess headed to costume party.

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Snuggles with Naomi. Claire and Eliza are sad to see their Reach "aunties" go but are excited that we'll see a few of them in a few more months back in the U.S.

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On a trip to the Gulf with Bekah, Beth and Janessa.

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With Charity. We are so thankful for the babysitting the Reachers did and the chance to get out sometimes for a date!

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We ate many, many meals on the floor like this- from sticky rice feasts to pizza.

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At the school on their appreciation day.

We'll miss you!